Better comebacks for *-ist jokes: Ally Skills Workshop in NYC

Wish you had a better comeback whenever someone makes a sexist joke at work? Tired of reading racist comments on your community’s mailing list and not knowing how to respond without getting in a flame war? The first ever public Ally Skills Workshop in the New York City area is on Saturday, March 5th, from 1pm to 4pm at the Recurse Center in Manhattan (register here). In this workshop, participants spend most of the time in small discussion groups talking about real-world situations and sharing their knowledge and experience with each other.

We welcome and encourage people of all genders, races, sexualities, and ages to attend, with tickets available on a sliding scale from $25 to $150 (and free tickets for folks from the Recurse Center – DM @frameshiftllc for details). The workshop works best with a wide variety of people who can share their personal experiences as both an ally and the target of systemic oppression. Some of the scenarios we talk about include:

A woman is standing alone at an event that is mostly men. What can men do to make her feel included and welcome, without coming across as a creep?

A black person in your community is frequently criticized for being too “angry,” “aggressive,” and “abrasive” while white people who are far ruder and more aggressive are accepted. What can white people do to reverse this dynamic?

An email on your project’s mailing list starts, “Imagine you are explaining this to your girlfriend,” – and you’re pretty sure they aren’t thinking of the one out lesbian on the project. What can straight men say to stop this behavior without getting the point lost in a flame war?

Here are some things people have said about the Ally Skills Workshop:

Loved the format, it was super interactive and didn’t feel like a drag, 3 hours just flew by. — Anonymous participant

Valerie was awesome! It was interesting seeing situations many of us have encountered, and seeing hearing the right/appropriate ways to react. Being in groups and hearing peoples thoughts about the situations was cool too – there were lots of things that were brought up that I probably wouldn’t have thought of myself. — Anonymous participant

It’s kind of strange thing to say, but my favorite part about the workshop was the structure. I’ve been in a bunch of conversations and/or workshops about inclusiveness and I find that they often don’t have enough direction. – Jesse Pollak

Join us on Saturday March 5th!

Click here for a list of upcoming classes from Frame Shift Consulting.